Day 2: Results

So....my last post was about working on my body language and my unnecessary attitudes and to simply stop and take a few moments before reacting. Well, I really tried with this one and Ive been working on it for a few days now because I felt that it deserved more than a day. Ive struggled each day at different times to stop and think and Ive noticed myself many times falling back into old habits. Im so use to reacting on emotions the second that I feel those emotions.
   Theres been quite a few times that Ive felt irritated and wanted to get upset and/or hold everything inside and respond with bad body language but instead I took a few seconds and thought about how my reacting in those ways would be productive to our relationship, and my answer was that it wouldnt be productive one bit. So, I changed the way I reacted and I answered in a nice tone. The results were much different. I was answered in a nice tone as well and the rest of the interaction was not hostile. We were able to move on and within a few mintues I also realized that what I was upset about didnt matter one bit in the big picture. I hope to be able to continue to do this bc it makes such a difference. I just still constantly want to revert back to using body language and attitudes, it just seems like the right thing to do at the time, and I feel a sense of justification BUT it is NOT the right way to respond- as humans we are so use to getting things Right when we want them. We dont want to work for them. Ive noticed a different set of feelings when I go about doing things the "right" way- even though it was hard for me to stop and think about what Im doing and why, when I do the rewards are amazing. I get a sense of pride for actively working on the issue, and I get much better results with the person Im taking my time with.
   The thing that made me just smile from ear to ear, even though I didnt really show my elation was when my husband stopped and said that he really appreciated me trying to watch my tones. So Im going to continue to work on this one daily bc I believe this is the issue that causes the most contention between me and him. Thanks for listening! My next blog post will be on not being so bossy- its not in my list on the first blog of things for me to work on, but I noticed yesterday and the day before that Im extremely bossy to a few different people in my life and if I was being treated like that I would be very hurt and upset. So until next time- have a wonderful day!!!