So today my goal is to watch how I handle situations that upset me. I tend to use body language and passive aggression instead of simply saying what upset me to the person that upset me. I walk around mad/sad and tend to give off "dirty looks" and I am very closed off. I want to be able to simply say what is wrong and try and talk to the person who may have upset me and solve the problem. When I use passive aggression Im not only internalizing my anger, but Im causing more issues because the other person has no idea most of the time what they did and they just think Im being mean and hostile.
The reason for me wanting to learn how to change my communication habits is because I see many problems arising out of my body language. Ive had one to many conversations that start out with "why are you acting like that?" or "why are you giving me such dirty looks, what did I do?" Not only do I then take it to another level by not answering with the reason Im upset, but I then say, "nothing." Which I think a lot of people tend to do. We think that the other person should know why we're mad and should be able to apologize perfectly, when really they have no idea what they did in the first place most of the time. So Im being passive aggressive and Im also ending any possibility of there being a resolvable solution bc I started off being so hostile. So today I will practice thinking before I speak and making sure Im not giving off bad "vibes" and "giving dirty looks" and making all efforts handle my anger/frustrations in a productive, healthy manner. I will update later- I struggle with this issue most with my husband and Ive been at work all day so I will need to be working on this issue at night when Im able to with him. I plan on working on this skill for a couple days then updating as I go because this is one thing I struggle with tremendously. Thanks for reading and thanks for the uplifting comments!
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